We say it every day.
With a smile.
With a shrug.
With a practiced tone that doesn’t invite questions.
“I’m fine.”
Even when we’re overwhelmed.
Even when we’re hurting.
Even when we’re nowhere close to okay.
The Lies We Whisper to Keep Going
These aren’t always big, bold lies. They’re often tiny and convincing—just believable enough to silence the truth.
- “It’s not that bad.”
- “Other people have it worse.”
- “I’m just tired.”
- “I’ll deal with it later.”
- “I should be over this by now.”
- “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
Sound familiar?
We’ve been conditioned to press on, to be strong, to carry it well. But the longer we keep lying to ourselves, the more we disconnect from what we really need.
Why We Do It
We lie to ourselves because:
- We’re afraid of what will unravel if we tell the truth
- We think acknowledging the pain will make it real
- We don’t want to be a burden
- We’re too tired to explain what’s hard to name
But what if telling the truth—even just to yourself—was the start of freedom?
What the Truth Sounds Like
- “I’m not okay, and I don’t have to pretend.”
- “I’ve been holding a lot, and I need help.”
- “I want to heal, but I’m scared.”
- “This hurts more than I let on.”
- “I keep saying ‘tomorrow,’ but I need support now.”
You don’t have to broadcast your truth to everyone.
But you do deserve a space where the truth can breathe.
That Space Might Be Therapy
At NewVision Therapy, I hold space for women who are tired of pretending.
If you’re ready to stop lying to yourself—even if you’re scared of what comes next—therapy can be where you lay it all down and begin again.
👉🏽 Visit NewVision Therapy to learn more or schedule a session.
Remember…
“I’m fine” might get you through the day.
But truth—spoken in safety—will carry you into healing.
You’re allowed to tell the truth.
And you don’t have to face it alone.